Filtering – You look at one element of the situation to the exclusion of everything else. By doing this your fears, losses and irritations become exaggerated and important. Shift Focus - No need to magnify
Polarized thinking – You look at things in absolute black and white thinking, all good or all bad. No black and white judgement -Think in percentages
Overgeneralization – You view a negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. Quantify - Evidence for conclusions? - There are no absolutes
Mind reading – You assume that people are reacting negatively to you when there is no definite evidence. Check it out - Evidence for conclusion
Catastriphizing – Catastrophic thoughts start with “what if”. There are no limits to a fertile catastrophic imagination Realistic Odds
Personalization – The underlying assumption is that your worth is questionable. You interpret each experience, each conversation, and each look as a clue to your worth. Check it out - Evidence for conclusion - Why risk comparison?
Control fallacy – You can see yourself as helpless and externally controlled, or as omnipotent and responsible for everyone around you. I make it happen - Each one is responsible
Fallacy of Fairness – Fairness is a subjective assessment. You make assumptions about how things would change if people were fair and really valued you. Preference vs. fairness
Emotional Reasoning – What you feel must be true. The problem with emotional reasoning is that by themselves emotions have not validity. Feelings can lie
Fallacy of Change – You assume that others will change to suite you if you pressure them enough. Your thinking style is that your happiness depends on the happiness of others. I make it happen
Global Labeling – You generalize one or two qualities into a global judgment, making the world stereotyped and one-dimensional. Be specific
Blaming – You make someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are actually your responsibility. You have no responsibility to assert your needs, say no, or go elsewhere for what you want. I make it happen – Each one is responsible
Shoulds – You operate from a list of inflexible rules about how you and others should act. Flexible values
Being Right – You are usually on the defensive. You must continually prove your viewpoint is correct. You never make mistakes. Being right means more than the relationship. Active Listening
Heaven’s reward Fallacy – You sacrifice and slave all the while imaginating that you are collecting brownie points that you can cash in some day. The Reward is Now
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